Comments on: Accepting your darkside http://www.dragosroua.com/accepting-your-darkside/ The Personal Development Blog Thu, 09 Feb 2012 12:20:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=151 By: Kai http://www.dragosroua.com/accepting-your-darkside/#comment-106800 Kai Tue, 13 Dec 2011 06:36:05 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/accepting-your-darkside/#comment-106800 OOoooh You are the man for this one. You have helped me to get one step closer to loving my darkside and being whole again. Thank you Dragos The Dragon OOoooh You are the man for this one. You have helped me to get one step closer to loving my darkside and being whole again. Thank you Dragos The Dragon

]]> By: Jason http://www.dragosroua.com/accepting-your-darkside/#comment-83117 Jason Mon, 07 Jun 2010 13:11:50 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/accepting-your-darkside/#comment-83117 i al;ways conciusly accept myself and cetatin even and sirtuation still bugg me or make my stomach race. i al;ways conciusly accept myself and cetatin even and sirtuation still bugg me or make my stomach race.

]]> By: JME http://www.dragosroua.com/accepting-your-darkside/#comment-79803 JME Thu, 14 Jan 2010 17:07:53 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/accepting-your-darkside/#comment-79803 I have recently been made aware of my dark side and am having a hard time being compassionate with myself. I feel embarrassed because my perception of myself is that I'm so nice all the time and want the best for everyone. I've been made aware that I don't want the best for everyone and my competitiveness and drive sqaushes others and they don't feel supported. What others have pointed out to me (we all work in the personal growth field) that this dark side that comes out can be good because it is an indicator of personal work and wholeness that can be available through the acceptance of the dark side. But more than acceptance, I'm seeing where this particular piece of my dark side came from in my upbringing. I can see how I became wired in this way and how I can go back and tell some truths to my family so that I don't have to keep projecting them on others. I have recently been made aware of my dark side and am having a hard time being compassionate with myself. I feel embarrassed because my perception of myself is that I’m so nice all the time and want the best for everyone. I’ve been made aware that I don’t want the best for everyone and my competitiveness and drive sqaushes others and they don’t feel supported.
What others have pointed out to me (we all work in the personal growth field) that this dark side that comes out can be good because it is an indicator of personal work and wholeness that can be available through the acceptance of the dark side. But more than acceptance, I’m seeing where this particular piece of my dark side came from in my upbringing. I can see how I became wired in this way and how I can go back and tell some truths to my family so that I don’t have to keep projecting them on others.

]]> By: amit http://www.dragosroua.com/accepting-your-darkside/#comment-63277 amit Tue, 01 Sep 2009 07:25:01 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/accepting-your-darkside/#comment-63277 Dear Sir, I thank you for bringing this up. In a world where imperfections are not tolerated, this is a very good initiative. We have over burdened ourselves in striving perfection and forgotten that only God is perfect and only God can heal.Few points from me : 1. I have bad parts. a)Some i know some i may not know. b) Some I like some i dont like. c) Some of them need to be recognised.They are mine and i have to accept that i am like that. Running away does not help. The eyes of GOD reach even in Hell so we should to accept and then ask forgiveness because GOD forgives,GOD loves,GOD restores. However why should we accept our darker side. Because the Bible tells us GOD came and he sat down with sinners and ate. So in happiness lets turn towards GOD and welcome Him and we will not be the same.Mother Mary could sing the magnificant because she realized that she was nothing, instead sang of GOD and lived with Him.Isnt it easy.? I would love if some you help us in walking with GOD and sing of GOD's praises. Dear Sir,
I thank you for bringing this up. In a world where imperfections are not tolerated, this is a very good initiative. We have over burdened ourselves in striving perfection and forgotten that only God is perfect and only God can heal.Few points from me :
1. I have bad parts.
a)Some i know some i may not know.
b) Some I like some i dont like.
c) Some of them need to be recognised.They are mine and i have to accept that i am like that. Running away does not help. The eyes of GOD reach even in Hell so we should to accept and then ask forgiveness because GOD forgives,GOD loves,GOD restores.
However why should we accept our darker side. Because the Bible tells us GOD came and he sat down with sinners and ate. So in happiness lets turn towards GOD and welcome Him and we will not be the same.Mother Mary could sing the magnificant because she realized that she was nothing, instead sang of GOD and lived with Him.Isnt it easy.? I would love if some you help us in walking with GOD and sing of GOD’s praises.

]]> By: dragos http://www.dragosroua.com/accepting-your-darkside/#comment-55913 dragos Wed, 10 Jun 2009 12:22:43 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/accepting-your-darkside/#comment-55913 @Crafters100 first of all, thanks for stopping by. Second: congrats on living your life the way you want. The choice of a personal path is the most difficult choice we face. In the end, is the only choice we face. @Crafters100 first of all, thanks for stopping by. Second: congrats on living your life the way you want. The choice of a personal path is the most difficult choice we face. In the end, is the only choice we face.

]]> By: Crafters100 http://www.dragosroua.com/accepting-your-darkside/#comment-55906 Crafters100 Wed, 10 Jun 2009 09:55:30 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/accepting-your-darkside/#comment-55906 I've found that sometimes what we perceive as our dark side is actually a source of strength. Thank you for this article. It confirms my choice of living life a whole & complete person. I’ve found that sometimes what we perceive as our dark side is actually a source of strength.

Thank you for this article. It confirms my choice of living life a whole & complete person.

]]> By: dragos http://www.dragosroua.com/accepting-your-darkside/#comment-30083 dragos Wed, 14 Jan 2009 05:46:34 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/accepting-your-darkside/#comment-30083 I'm sorry to hear that you share your life with a person who lacks connection with you. One thing that I learn in the last years, and that was a very painful thing to learn, is that complaining amplifies the bad situation that you're complaining about. If anything goes wrong in your life is because of you. Yes, that's painful learning because it's so easy to blame somebody else for our own hesitations. I’m sorry to hear that you share your life with a person who lacks connection with you. One thing that I learn in the last years, and that was a very painful thing to learn, is that complaining amplifies the bad situation that you’re complaining about. If anything goes wrong in your life is because of you. Yes, that’s painful learning because it’s so easy to blame somebody else for our own hesitations.

]]> By: donald whitehead http://www.dragosroua.com/accepting-your-darkside/#comment-30075 donald whitehead Wed, 14 Jan 2009 03:26:38 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/accepting-your-darkside/#comment-30075 I'm no psychologist but what do you call a person whom everyone thinks is just what the doctor ordered, someone who if you told anyone in the community that they were anything bad that you would be shamefully doubted. This person shows you everything, does to you things that bordered on lunacy but they knew very well what they're faculties were. Deliberately out right favoritism to someone elses wrong doing and all the time making you look guilty when you are breathlessly taken aback with there actions. Someone who claims to be crazy about you, you've been with for 13 years, but seems to deliberately hold you back from achieving success, and making your innocent actions seem deceitful. like not letting you take the car (they have 2) to go to school, or to run errands because your car, a car that served them well when they didn't have one, is now broken, but yet lets their son use it whom doesn't even have a drivers license. I need to fill out a questionaire, he just says I'll be back and takes the keys. But their friends would have never yhought that they were like that. And tons of other stuff to the likeness of that. Oh! and they are devout and devoted christian. What is this if it isn't a darkside? Don I’m no psychologist but what do you call a person whom everyone thinks is just what the doctor ordered, someone who if you told anyone in the community that they were anything bad that you would be shamefully doubted. This person shows you everything, does to you things that bordered on lunacy but they knew very well what they’re faculties were. Deliberately out right favoritism to someone elses wrong doing and all the time making you look guilty when you are breathlessly taken aback with there actions. Someone who claims to be crazy about you, you’ve been with for 13 years, but seems to deliberately hold you back from achieving success, and making your innocent actions seem deceitful. like not letting you take the car (they have 2) to go to school, or to run errands because your car, a car that served them well when they didn’t have one, is now broken, but yet lets their son use it whom doesn’t even have a drivers license. I need to fill out a questionaire, he just says I’ll be back and takes the keys. But their friends would have never yhought that they were like that. And tons of other stuff to the likeness of that. Oh! and they are devout and devoted christian.
What is this if it isn’t a darkside?
Don

]]> By: Simonne http://www.dragosroua.com/accepting-your-darkside/#comment-17765 Simonne Fri, 03 Aug 2007 09:52:33 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/accepting-your-darkside/#comment-17765 This is true, with a bit of exercise, reconcilliation with your dark side can be achieved. What I find to be more difficult is learning to live with other people's dark sides. People that are my closest friends, people I would do anything for, they all have a "dark side" (perceived as such by me, and not by them, thus making the change impossible) which I had to accommodate if I wanted them to be part of my life. Every victory lasts until the dark side shows up again, but I don't know how to do better. This is true, with a bit of exercise, reconcilliation with your dark side can be achieved. What I find to be more difficult is learning to live with other people’s dark sides. People that are my closest friends, people I would do anything for, they all have a “dark side” (perceived as such by me, and not by them, thus making the change impossible) which I had to accommodate if I wanted them to be part of my life. Every victory lasts until the dark side shows up again, but I don’t know how to do better.

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