Comments on: ADD stages – Decide

By: 100 Things I Did in 2009

100 Things I Did in 2009 — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 08:50:40 +0000

[...] comes from Assess- Decide – Do. A life management framework should be flexible enough to accommodate whatever life [...]

By: Reasonable Robinson

Reasonable Robinson — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 05:19:02 +0000

Your’e right! And my paraphrase was wrong I should have said ‘anxiety over’. (It was from an Harvard Business Review article by Diane Cotou). I guess I was trying to explain that usually its my ‘inhibting reasons’ for not moving forward (invariably constructed through generalisations, distortions and deletions) that need to be overcome regardless of any apparent benefit.
.-= Reasonable Robinson´s last blog ..She Should Have Had ‘Gullible’ Tatooed On Her Forehead =-.

By: dragos

dragos — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 14:29:55 +0000

Well, I do appreciate the fact you’re stopping by, that you can be sure of.

You already followed your decision to read this post and leave a few words. As far as I can see, you’ve done exactly what you decided. Which is great.

By: dragos

dragos — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 14:28:23 +0000

I love how you point each time on things I’ve barely touched and made them shinier. Yes, we are the result of our past decisions, and each present decision will shape our future.

Thanks for the nice words.

By: dragos

dragos — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 14:27:09 +0000

Well, the movie has a happy end, after all.

As you said, you’ve been successful by paying a very high price. I suppose now you’re being successful at a much lower price on the personal life, and this is what “Click” teach us, right?

By: dragos

dragos — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 14:25:20 +0000

Allow me to think you’re not having a hard time with the “doing” part, but with the “decision” or “assessment” part. And from what I see, it’s the “decision” part which causes you trouble. I think you’re not really making decisions, you’re still in assessment. A true decision will have to completely change you reality.

But don’t worry, I think we’ve all been there. As a matter of fact, I’m still there from time to time, but I know I’ll get out of it the moment I’ll actually start doing something.

By: dragos

dragos — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 14:21:15 +0000

Seems like you’re an observer. Having hard time in the “decision” realm, but doing better in the “doing” realm usually means you just like to see things and browse them. Once you decided, you don’t have much trouble getting along with it. I’ve been there before, it’s quite a comfortable mindset.

By: dragos

dragos — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 14:13:27 +0000

Maybe it’s better to start by doing something you like first? Things we like, although they’re killing the current reality, they usually create a better one.

By: dragos

dragos — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 14:10:20 +0000

Fear is certainly one of the biggest motivators, I agree. I really don’t know if it’s the most valuable, though. As long as it works for you, don’t break it

By: Bunnygotblog

Bunnygotblog — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 00:53:39 +0000

I have seen the movie but not the connection until now.I suppose if at the time I had a significant other and family maybe.
You are soooooooooooooo Bad! I never have told anyone of this experience before and look what I have done!
It is very easy to try to process too much without recognizing it. Maybe others can identify. I was successful but at a personal high price. I lived and breathed work like an addiction.