Have you ever thought about the values you create? Ever crossed your mind to sit back and look out what exactly you give to the outside world in exchange for what you receive? Because this is how we, humans, are functioning: by a continuous exchange of values. The most popular value exchanged being, of course, money.
But despite its popularity, money is not the only value we exchange, is only the most popular. There are a lot of other values growing into our lives, floating around and finding their path, either inside or outside our person. Our society lives by exchange. Our incomplete nature makes for a giant commerce around the clock for getting what we need in exchange for what we give.
In today’s post I’ll share some of my thoughts about the values we create and exchange, especially the number of connections each of these values can have.
Sellers And Buyers
Every time you give something away, you’ll be the seller. And of course, every time you’ll get something back you’ll be the buyer. We play those roles all the time. We give away something valuable to the outside world and get something back in return. Sometimes we’re more in the seller’s shoes, sometimes we’re more like the buyer. And the values we trade are what defines us the most.
We give care to our family and receive emotional bonding and warmth. We give advice and compassion to our friends and get back support and gratitude. We give expertise and know-how to our clients and get back money and recognition. We give time and presence to our employers and get back money and appreciation (well, most of the time). We trade values.
Each of these values behave like an object, it can be picked up and stored, transported and used. And for that, it has handles. Or, to be a little more exact, connections. Each value we trade, either by selling, either by receiving it, has connections.
If you’re starting to look around in circles wandering where are those handles for the paycheck you get last month, stick around a little bit, I’ll try to explain more. It’s easier than it seems now.
The bigger the number of connections attached to each value, the higher the chance to find a potential user. If you create something with a single handle, you’ll be able to use that something only and only by that single handle. If, on the contrary, you created something with more handles, chances for that something to be picked up and used will increase by the number of the attached handles.
Single Connection Values
The vast majority of our current world values are singe connection values. And by that I’m referring to the way we get back stuff we need for survival. Almost every human being on the planet is having a job in which is trading expertise and time to an employer. Those people get back a package of corresponding values including money, cars, phones, a house and/or medical insurance.
Having a job is a single connection value.
Why is that? Because you can only sell it to one user at a given time. You only have one handle, and that handle is in the hand of your boss. You broadcast value to a single receiver. And that receiver is the only one who can give back value to you. This one to one relationship is the source of the overwhelming stress most of the people endure at their job.
You’ll often heard people saying they hate their jobs. In fact, they’re hating the fact they can’t directly influence the receiving value. They’re selling a value with only one handle, and that handle is in the hand of somebody else. Of course, most of the time, that somebody else, that boss, will know that he’s the only one in charge and do his best to keep the receiving value low. Out of greed, or just because at the other end he’s selling a single connection value too to another boss, only one level up.
Having a job means actually selling your time to somebody else. Time is a one handle thing. You can’t multiply it, we live in an universe with a linear perception of the time. If you chose to sell your time, you’ll doom yourself to a single connection value chain. At the end of the chain, the lower level, you won’t have anything more to sell, because you already sold your precious time. The handle of your time is in somebody else’s hand..
And what you get back? Most of the time you’ll get back far less than you’ve sold. You can get a lot of money, for instance, but that money is becoming a single connection value too,Â as long as you can’t really use it outside your time. You have the money but you don’t have the time to spend it. I’m sure that this is one of the most common patterns of our times: working for money and then spending it for getting back the health ruined in the process of making that money.
But what if instead of selling your time to a single user you start to sell it to multiple users? Well, that’s a huge step forward. It’s often called freelancing and it’s one of the most interesting ways in which you can trade value.
As a freelancer, you’ll broadcast your message to multiple users, advertise your expertise and a set of packages you sell. Being it consulting, web design, coding or lawn mowing. Each package has its own time. In fact, almost all the freelancers are selling by the hour. Freelancers cut down the time they used to sell bulk to only one user in smaller units andÂ they’re selling it back to a multiplied audience.
But this is still a single connection value. You can sell your time or skill to only one connection, your contractor. Of course, you can change the connection whenever you want, which is as huge step forward for having a job. But you still have one connection: between you and your contractor.
Multiple Connections Values
It’s becoming clear now that if you want to create multiple connections values, you must solve the time problem. In other words, you have to create timeless value. If you chose to broadcast only timely values, such as your expertise in various services, you’re creating single connection values.
Think at a book now, the last book you’ve read. You were one of the readers, among other thousands, perhaps. You found something inspiring in that book, something that made your life better, so you bought something from that. Now think at the author: he’s selling you his expertise or originality and he’s receiving back value – in terms of money, for instance – long after the process of the value creation was finished. His value, the book, has multiple connections. It can be picked up by anyone, anytime and still broadcast value.
Any value that is not bounded by time has multiple connections.
I know that we’re not all writers, or inventors or house builders. I’m not trying to restrict the multiple connections values to the products area. There are a lot of multiple connections values outside the material world. Think at the love you let flow for your loved ones, for instance. Is this time based? You stop loving them when you sleep? No. This is a multiple connections value. You’ll be feeding your loved ones with it for the rest of your life and they will be able to pick it up whenever they need it. It will be there. Love is an infinite connections value, by the way.
…Is a matter of correctly positioning yourself toward what you want to get back in exchange of what you give.
If you want to get back more on your plate, you’ll have to give more. If you chose to broadcast single connection values, like your job, you’ll surely become a workaholic. The more you give at your job the more you get back. You’ll be bound by the time you spend at your job in order to give and receive more value.
But if you think to position yourself outside the regular time flow, you’ll be in the position to create multiple connections values. The only limitation to this process is inside you, not outside. Yes, you can write a book, you can build something useful for other people, you can invent something, you can do whatever you want. You can start a blog, for a change. Having and maintaining a blog is another example of multiple connections value. Whatever you write, it will be available to many users, not just one, years after you finished it, not only in the moment you actually wrote. It can continuously create and broadcast your value long after you actually produced it.
By positioning yourself outside the regular time flow I understand an alignment with core, timeless vibrations. It’s that advice that keeps its freshness years after, that book that survived all your ages, that feeling you have for your wife even if you’re not the lovers you were years ago, or the smile of your little baby which is now on a face of a grown up person. Those are timeless values. Love and wisdom are surrounded with infinite connections, you can pick up their vibrations any time. Be there, search them, find them and make them yours, and then let them flow outside your world and be prepared to receive back an equally intense flow.
For the record, I don’t make any quality judgement between single and multiple connections values. Each type of value has its own share of producers and receivers, and they’re both solid values, after all. I just find multiple connections values to be more appealing to me.
So, what are your values? How do you receive what you need from the society? What do you sell? Is it a single connection or a multiple connections value? I’d love to hear about that in the comments.
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And then you start to breath in guilt and shame, instead of air. Every breathe you take is putting more dark thoughts into your body.
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