Oh, I see it’s Philip! Well, welcome Philip and thanks for your comment.

I think what you’re talking about is not necessarily specific to Malaysia, it’s the same in our place as well. Being fair and generous isn’t equal to spending your money on your friends though! It’s just good manners, I think.

Also, what I was meaning to say wasn’t that you shouldn’t give your friends some money when they need it, or that you should be tight with your budget. I was just willing to say that money should not be the *tool* to build friendships.

Hi PIP, and have a nice day! (do you know any other pips, by the way?)

Zoli
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Thanks for the compliment, first of all! I also saw that, it happens quite often, you visit a blog, you’re called an oh-so-good friend at your first visit, the owner preaches how worthwhile friendships are for them, etc. etc.

Let’s take this comment for example. Although I’m *really* glad that you left me this comment, I only know that you are Wayne Liew, and online marketer-entrepreneur who left a comment at one of my articles. I could call you “my dear friend” right away, but how would that look? It would mean that the term friendship is of low value for me, as I call everybody a friend, and thus real friendships lose value. It would feel weird and unauthentic for you as well, since you probably did not think that “wow… I read an article from this guy, he’s my friend now”.. That’s not how things work. By preserving the real value of friendships you will be more respected and whenever you call somebody your friend, they will know that you have a special place for them in your heart.

Thanks for your comment, dude!
Zoli
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I have also met some awesome dudes online, and I think that many of us have, we’re in 2010 What I’m glad for is that using online tools I can keep in touch with people whom I met in real life but are far away from me now.

Yep, friendships should form organically, and in a natural pace, not at the speed of a click or of broadband internet.

I hope your day rocks, Scott!
Zoli
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All I can say is that I am glad you didn’t have to hear about these kinds of miserable tricks until now. I don’t really get what the people who buy thousands of followers by paying a few hundred bucks (or maybe even less) think when they go that way. At the moment I have about 250 followers, and only follow about 80 people, and I’m having a great time on Twitter and still have time for “real life” (I mean offline).

Btw, I have just followed you, I’m zcserei on Twitter

I really like your phrasing with “any worthwhile relationship comes without a price tag”.

Have a nice day, Nea!
Zoli
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Well, if you had no idea then you can call yourself lucky, I believe. Also, I don’t think it will really take your attention unless you follow people who haven’t gained your following by sharing real value. Absolutely, you can buy the numbers, but these people will not really be interested in what you have to say… Thanks for the compliments and for participating in the discussion!

Wishing you a great day,
Zoli
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I wouldn’t pay a cent for new Twitter followers, just for the sake of following. A major drawback is that when you buy such “followers” you do not really buy people who actually follow you, but people who are number traders, who are also “in the system”, and don’t care about what is on their time-line, but instead concentrate their powers so that their message is transmitted to (though not possibly read by) thousands of tweeple.

I believe that if you give attention to what you’re sharing (both online and in real life), then you will naturally be followed, no buying is required.

Thanks for the comment, Marko, I appreciate it!

Eg. Splitting a $40 bill among 3 friends? If it means you forking out $20, just do it. Small monetary things will add up and turn into future favours.

Maybe culture plays an important part. Here in Malaysia, like many Asian countries, being “tight” with money is a turn off.

I agree that friends should always form organically.
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