Thanks for getting back on this – a very interesting perspective

Cheers,

B.

I guess your question goes down to the type if relationship you’re talking about, not to your general attitude. You know, when you’re in a normal, balanced relationship, over-delivering is happening naturally because there is some energy building between the involved parts: you give but at the same time your receive something. Most of the time you receive gratitude, which is like a sort of fuel for your future actions. So it’s quite easier to outperform yourself each time if you got more fuel for your actions.

On the other part, on an unbalanced, abusive relation, gratitude is absent, making for a poor stream of energy between the involved parts. So it tends to become difficult to even perform up to your promises on those relationships, outperforming yourself being something rather unusual.

So it’s not about what you do, but for who you’re doing this… Hope it answered your question

Have a nice spring day!

One quick practical question: how do you manage someone’s expectations, who already knows that you over-delivered in the past? In am talking about renewing your commitments: to be more specific, something like setting your next performance goals with your boss / wife /customer /whoever, in the context of him/her already knowing that you have constantly over achieved your past promises… Obviously they expect more, right from the beginning… so how to deal with the old “Com’on – you can do much more” reaction…

Cheers,

Bogdan

I’ve written several posts that provide details about my experiences with GTD and the applications I use on my blog at http://johnkendrick.wordpress.com/how-to-gtd/ John