Comments on: Healers and Hurters

By: Hamdiyatur Rohmah

Hamdiyatur Rohmah — Sat, 08 May 2010 12:39:04 +0000

Yeah…the person who has that kind of peacefull is extra ordinary. But, I believe that everybody can do it with a positive thinking. 2 minutes is high quality time to smile and feel happy. Healing other is a great present.

By: dragos

dragos — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 02:49:21 +0000

Totally right, we’re all playing those roles at some points in our life, and sometimes we switch between them even towards the same person.

By: dragos

dragos — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 02:48:25 +0000

Hey, Sam Thanks for the comment. You are right when saying this article doesn't give you the solution to change something (if there's something to be changed, of course). Sometimes I write only to raise some feelings or trigger some "a-ha" moments in my readers. Not everything I write gives solutions. For the very simple reason I don't have the solution for everything. Neither do you or anyone else. I may have some experience to share in the hope you'll find it useful, or, as you say, inspiring. And what I do know I have is the ability to identify some specific situations or life roles, such the role of healer and hurter, and describe them. Sometimes just identifying yourself with a specific role could trigger a certain action which will ultimately lead to a change. And you don't have to follow anyone's advice to do that. As for feeling better and inspired, I do have, however, 2 resources for you: 100 Ways To Live A Better Life 33 Ways To Get And Keep Yourself Motivated

By: Sam

Sam — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 01:04:18 +0000

Maybe I misunderstood your article, but I just don’t see what it was meant to do for anyone. I have known people who made me feel good and people who did not, but I believe that your article overgeneralizes and expresses complex human beings as good or bad, with no in-between.
Some very charismatic people I know are totally out for themselves. Yet it makes me feel great to be around them-that, of course, is part of there skill-set for getting others to do for them. Some uncharismatic people are pretty well-intended, but they have poor people skills. And then there are all kinds of people in-between.
A more helpful article, if you are interested in helping and inspiring, would be how to actually help others. How to feel better when you are down and how to make others feel better. That would be inspiring, not reading something that makes you either pat yourself on the back and say, “I’m a healer!” or “Oh, shoot, I am a hurter and didn’t realize; now that I do, this article doesn’t even explain how to change that.”

By: Bunnygotblog

Bunnygotblog — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 23:27:13 +0000

ok, Guys I have to say we are all healers and hurters at some point. You know why???
I have had good friends right until they decided they thought they were in love. Now, when I was not in love with them opposed to loving them as friends, things got complicated.I didn’t ask for it.
But the one thing I learned is when the opposite sex proclaims interest and you do not feel the same way~you have to accept you have lost a friend. Staying in contact only encourages the other person there is hope.He/she will not go on with their live. This is what I learned the hard way.I have lost a lot of good male friends this way.
Bunnygotblog´s last blog ..Come To The Carnival

By: dragos

dragos — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 20:34:50 +0000

Absolutely true, Jonathan, it’s not how much we show of ourselves but how much we’re perceived as. If one got the habit of hurting himslef, many of the peopke around will appear as hurters, no matter what…

By: dragos

dragos — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 20:32:37 +0000

Thanks for the nice words and glad you enjoy being around here. Same thing for me having you around here, lots of positive energies emerging from you

By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 04:49:01 +0000

Dragos, what an interesting and intriguing concept. Honestly, I have never considered things in this exact light before. The two titles you chose, hunters and healers, each have a very distinct tone which puts real emphasis on the contrast.

Obviously, I prefer to think of myself as a healer, but I would say that what really matters is how others see me. We all have different faces we are capable of showing. I choose to paint myself into the role of a healer, and hope that is how I am viewed.
Jonathan – Advanced Life Skills´s last blog ..Are You Pursuing Your Passion or Just Being Practical?

By: Luke

Luke — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 02:44:20 +0000

Dragos,
It’s been a while since I enjoyed your last post, like 3 days now
Anyhow, I like your analogy here, the instant you get it is the second
you see the world from a different perspective, just like that.
Perfect example of transformative learning…

By: dragos

dragos — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 02:02:50 +0000

I didn’t think at this, Ian, I have to admit. Healing wouldn’t be possible without hurting… What would you do / be in a world without pain? Is this pain necessary? It’s just an illusion, like a pointer to a specific path, disguised in something so powerful that we can’t ignore it?

You made me think