Comments on: How to Deal With Rejection: 5 Fresh Ways to Look at Getting Rejected http://www.dragosroua.com/how-to-deal-with-rejection-5-fresh-ways-to-look-at-getting-rejected/ The Personal Development Blog Thu, 09 Feb 2012 17:29:41 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=206 By: john http://www.dragosroua.com/how-to-deal-with-rejection-5-fresh-ways-to-look-at-getting-rejected/#comment-106430 john Mon, 28 Nov 2011 11:08:51 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/?p=5436#comment-106430 getting rejected by people that u do not know, or care to know. a person pretty much knows, if u like the person or not within the first 30 seconds to two minutes of meeting someone. if your impression is bad, reject them. who cares. life is short. if the person is someone that u like, and they reject u, who cares also. look everyone, u have to like yourself first. feel good about yourself. have high self esteem and self confidence and who and who does not like you will be irrelevant. u will know who your real friends are, when u have true connection with that person. not some fake smiling, fake nice connection, but a real true bond. if the vibe is bad, stay the hell away. their are millions of people on our planet, so a couple hundred rejections, does not seem so bad. get out their and network with people. meet new faces, as many as u can. your getting out of your comfort zone will increase with every exposure u have with people good or bad. just remember, not everyone will like you and u will not like everyone else. this is just the way it is getting rejected by people that u do not know, or care to know.
a person pretty much knows, if u like the person or not within the first 30 seconds to two minutes of meeting someone. if your impression is bad, reject them. who cares. life is short. if the person is someone that u like, and they reject u, who cares also.
look everyone, u have to like yourself first. feel good about yourself. have high self esteem and self confidence and who and who does not like you will be irrelevant. u will know who your real friends are, when u have true connection with that person. not some fake smiling, fake nice connection, but a real true bond.
if the vibe is bad, stay the hell away. their are millions of people on our planet, so a couple hundred rejections, does not seem so bad.
get out their and network with people. meet new faces, as many as u can. your getting out of your comfort zone will increase with every exposure u have with people good or bad. just remember, not everyone will like you and u will not like everyone else. this is just the way it is

]]> By: Mina http://www.dragosroua.com/how-to-deal-with-rejection-5-fresh-ways-to-look-at-getting-rejected/#comment-105769 Mina Thu, 20 Oct 2011 17:15:34 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/?p=5436#comment-105769 Being rejected by a loved one sucks! But I think that I can make it as I draw closer to God. It's easy to hit the replay button and list your grievances, but as I read your blog, I am resolved to work on my part. I want to know how I can better implement more kindness and compassion towards people who are around me and people who I will meet. Being rejected by a loved one sucks! But I think that I can make it as I draw closer to God. It’s easy to hit the replay button and list your grievances, but as I read your blog, I am resolved to work on my part. I want to know how I can better implement more kindness and compassion towards people who are around me and people who I will meet.

]]> By: milly http://www.dragosroua.com/how-to-deal-with-rejection-5-fresh-ways-to-look-at-getting-rejected/#comment-105541 milly Fri, 14 Oct 2011 01:43:56 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/?p=5436#comment-105541 I'm a total perfectionist. Actually a lot of my friends kind of joke ( not being mean ) about my sometimes strange things I do that help me achieve this "perfection". I think the reason I have always craved perfection is because I used to be the smartest and most talented person in my family and usually in my class. I loved that feeling. A couple years ago my brother hit puberty , and all of a sudden he went from being the awkward chubby one to a strong, muscular, sports star. Now that I have some competition with my brother I feel like I have to be perfect to impress my parents (because all of a sudden all of their praise and attention had gone to my brother). I am not very good at facing rejection, so I sometimes shy away from things I have to audition for because I feel like I am positively going to get rejected. But I have realized something. If you do not even try, you are going to have no chance of making it. And you will always have that feeling of "What I could have done if I only tried" so this year I have decided to take more risks and learn to accept rejection. I like your advice, very helpful :) I’m a total perfectionist. Actually a lot of my friends kind of joke ( not being mean ) about my sometimes strange things I do that help me achieve this “perfection”. I think the reason I have always craved perfection is because I used to be the smartest and most talented person in my family and usually in my class. I loved that feeling. A couple years ago my brother hit puberty , and all of a sudden he went from being the awkward chubby one to a strong, muscular, sports star. Now that I have some competition with my brother I feel like I have to be perfect to impress my parents (because all of a sudden all of their praise and attention had gone to my brother). I am not very good at facing rejection, so I sometimes shy away from things I have to audition for because I feel like I am positively going to get rejected. But I have realized something. If you do not even try, you are going to have no chance of making it. And you will always have that feeling of “What I could have done if I only tried” so this year I have decided to take more risks and learn to accept rejection. I like your advice, very helpful :)

]]> By: schaique http://www.dragosroua.com/how-to-deal-with-rejection-5-fresh-ways-to-look-at-getting-rejected/#comment-102923 schaique Mon, 22 Aug 2011 18:11:24 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/?p=5436#comment-102923 u r awesome...i don't know u so i may sound wierd but srly u rnt hanging out with the cool ppl .srsly...ditch em u r awesome…i don’t know u so i may sound wierd but srly u rnt hanging out with the cool ppl .srsly…ditch em

]]> By: amy http://www.dragosroua.com/how-to-deal-with-rejection-5-fresh-ways-to-look-at-getting-rejected/#comment-102550 amy Fri, 12 Aug 2011 05:46:33 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/?p=5436#comment-102550 I really enjoyed your article. The part about rejection being essential to growth, was very true. I did want to comment on one other thing though: on #3 you used the titles "girl" and "Man" ... kind of not a big deal, but a peer brought this up to me a couple of years ago, and it caused me to pause, and think... why not "woman" and "man"? Anyways just a thought. Thanks again for your insights! I really enjoyed your article. The part about rejection being essential to growth, was very true. I did want to comment on one other thing though: on #3 you used the titles “girl” and “Man” … kind of not a big deal, but a peer brought this up to me a couple of years ago, and it caused me to pause, and think… why not “woman” and “man”? Anyways just a thought. Thanks again for your insights!

]]> By: Cole http://www.dragosroua.com/how-to-deal-with-rejection-5-fresh-ways-to-look-at-getting-rejected/#comment-91703 Cole Fri, 04 Feb 2011 17:24:23 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/?p=5436#comment-91703 I really thought that this girl named Jordan was the one. We were good friends and she flirted with me sometimes. I asked her to the Valentines dance and she said that she would think about it. The another guy named Austin asked her 3 days later and Jordan said 'Yes' to him, and said no to me. I'm not sure what to do. Its confusing, Can u help? I really thought that this girl named Jordan was the one. We were good friends and she flirted with me sometimes. I asked her to the Valentines dance and she said that she would think about it. The another guy named Austin asked her 3 days later and Jordan said ‘Yes’ to him, and said no to me. I’m not sure what to do. Its confusing, Can u help?

]]> By: J @ Js Everyday Fashion http://www.dragosroua.com/how-to-deal-with-rejection-5-fresh-ways-to-look-at-getting-rejected/#comment-88286 J @ Js Everyday Fashion Fri, 22 Oct 2010 03:03:49 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/?p=5436#comment-88286 I Googled "how to deal with rejection" (it's been a rough day) and found this post. Lots of things I needed to hear. I especially like the last point - "rejection is essential to success." Definitely my new business motto! :-) I Googled “how to deal with rejection” (it’s been a rough day) and found this post. Lots of things I needed to hear. I especially like the last point – “rejection is essential to success.” Definitely my new business motto! :-)

]]> By: Fletch http://www.dragosroua.com/how-to-deal-with-rejection-5-fresh-ways-to-look-at-getting-rejected/#comment-82848 Fletch Mon, 03 May 2010 16:50:11 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/?p=5436#comment-82848 But "discipline" and "character" are easy words to misunderstand. They're often misused, and that's always frustrated me. I grew up thinking of character as hardness, and discipline as denying what hurts, not trying to make it it go away or be good to yourself while you are hurting. I ended up with major depression - not necessarily because of this, but it sure as heck didn't help me. Rejection, then, became the way life "put me in my place." When I wanted to get out of that place, facing more rejection meant being put back in it, over and over. Some say I am asking the impossible : that there is no help for the hurt. It must simply be put aside and used as a signal that more work must be done. They have never had to deal with depression. Those who do need a better answer, and sadly your "5 fresh ways" - sensible as they are - don't provide it. Am I asking the impossible? But “discipline” and “character” are easy words to misunderstand. They’re often misused, and that’s always frustrated me.

I grew up thinking of character as hardness, and discipline as denying what hurts, not trying to make it it go away or be good to yourself while you are hurting. I ended up with major depression – not necessarily because of this, but it sure as heck didn’t help me.

Rejection, then, became the way life “put me in my place.” When I wanted to get out of that place, facing more rejection meant being put back in it, over and over.

Some say I am asking the impossible : that there is no help for the hurt. It must simply be put aside and used as a signal that more work must be done. They have never had to deal with depression.

Those who do need a better answer, and sadly your “5 fresh ways” – sensible as they are – don’t provide it. Am I asking the impossible?

]]> By: Richard | RichardShelmerdine.com http://www.dragosroua.com/how-to-deal-with-rejection-5-fresh-ways-to-look-at-getting-rejected/#comment-82710 Richard | RichardShelmerdine.com Tue, 13 Apr 2010 18:12:10 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/?p=5436#comment-82710 during my workouts recently I've internalized the idea that "pain is weakness leaving the body". I'm strengthening the body and feel like the pain is the weakness leaving through my skin. It might sound silly but when you accept this as true you actually look forwards to things like asking out girls, working out etc because they "rid you of weakness". .-= Richard | RichardShelmerdine.com´s last blog ..<a href="http://richardshelmerdine.com/blog/2010/03/27/tabata-intervals-day-30-post-mortem/" rel="nofollow">Tabata Intervals : Day 30 (Post Mortem)</a> =-. during my workouts recently I’ve internalized the idea that “pain is weakness leaving the body”. I’m strengthening the body and feel like the pain is the weakness leaving through my skin. It might sound silly but when you accept this as true you actually look forwards to things like asking out girls, working out etc because they “rid you of weakness”.
.-= Richard | RichardShelmerdine.com´s last blog ..Tabata Intervals : Day 30 (Post Mortem) =-.

]]> By: Friday’s Links — A Meaningful Existence http://www.dragosroua.com/how-to-deal-with-rejection-5-fresh-ways-to-look-at-getting-rejected/#comment-82648 Friday’s Links — A Meaningful Existence Fri, 09 Apr 2010 12:16:24 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/?p=5436#comment-82648 [...] there’s a theme going on, because the next article is a guest post by Henri Juntilla called How to Deal With Rejection: 5 Fresh Ways to Look at Getting Rejected at Dragos Roua’s site Brillantly Better, who also talks about our beliefs and how [...] [...] there’s a theme going on, because the next article is a guest post by Henri Juntilla called How to Deal With Rejection: 5 Fresh Ways to Look at Getting Rejected at Dragos Roua’s site Brillantly Better, who also talks about our beliefs and how [...]

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