Comments on: Self Sabotage

By: Cristina F.

Cristina F. — Wed, 21 Dec 2011 09:48:15 +0000

Congratulations for being once again part of the top 50 personal development blogs of the year. I’m glad that Steven Aitchison, too, thinks that you’re “one of the nicest guys you could meet”. Maybe pretending that you’re not nice is another form of self sabotage?

Just joking, I understand perfectly what you mean, when you say that you’re not nice, as well as in this post. Although I don’t quite agree with interpreting the personal story you share here as self sabotage.

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By: Linda

Linda — Fri, 16 Dec 2011 16:56:46 +0000

Well I did manage to resist going to the casino and again and losing hundreds of dollars. I did it by asking my roommate to take me to the store instead of just me driving…I would have hit the highway down to the nearest casino, I know I would have!

So now I have that extra $200 to split between my two kids, who both need it this year due to unusual problems. Now I do not have to feel like a failure, stupid and selfish. My kids could have used all the money I wasted over the past couple years.

I feel good about my “good choice” this time, instead of guilty. I have to stop making “bad choices”…I am at retirement age and need my money for myself!

Emotions can rule, but the intellect can overcome emotions if you can find some way to delay the impulsive actions. I think that is what can happen, at least.

By: Kate

Kate — Tue, 22 Nov 2011 19:25:28 +0000

I was pretty down for last 4 months and I felt like there is nothing to do about that but then I found your website and read couple of posts and itÂ´s helping a lot, Thank you for what youÂ´re doing here.

By: Jannyne

Jannyne — Sat, 24 Sep 2011 07:57:08 +0000

Thanks, Dragos! This post is speaking to me in volumes. As I am reading your personal story I kept nodding because I could see myself doing the same things. This is my second year of sabotaging my work and relationships:( (I just realized that). I need to get out from this hole and change directions. When everything in my relationship stabilizes I want to break free. When I get the kind of job I wanted I find reasons and excuses to not go to work and just quit. Left 4 jobs this year

By: Bogac

Bogac — Thu, 14 Jul 2011 14:25:18 +0000

First of all, thanks for the great post, I’m 30, and I was thinking like I’m the only person living these kind of self-sabotage, well, still doing that sometimes, but now I can think about it, also trying to change it, but the most important thing is, I’m aware of it, and facing it. I can really understand you with burnouts, and also maybe the idea of getting bored of something because you think you had done it all, and nothing new to do, that one is a real motivation-killer…

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I love my life…(^___________^) « dongengnganku — Tue, 15 Mar 2011 07:29:09 +0000

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By: Kay

Kay — Mon, 24 Jan 2011 11:42:16 +0000

Thank you so much for sharing Dragos. I clearly recognize a pattern here (my boyfriend breaking up with me every time we’re both very happy AND about to take a step further together such as going on holidays, buying a house, etc – not no mention it). I would so love to help him out, but I realize I just can’t. Sad but true.

By: Linda

Linda — Wed, 19 Jan 2011 04:36:56 +0000

Also, it’s never one issue. I had a betrayal, a friend I thought was a friend really is not. And many more issues to work on. I did start something helpful, a daily “success list” to help remind me of the good things going on.