Comments on: Social Games People Play http://www.dragosroua.com/social-games-people-play/ The Personal Development Blog Thu, 09 Feb 2012 13:42:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=186 By: Ron http://www.dragosroua.com/social-games-people-play/#comment-97585 Ron Sat, 25 Jun 2011 10:05:09 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/?p=5763#comment-97585 The triangle is actually a very vicious circle played out in many of life's situations, and as the game evolves each player rotates though each of it's three roles. I would recommend any who are genuinely curious to read the book, but be warned, you will never look at human beings the same. It took me many years after studying that book to be able to be totally relaxed in social environments without feeling like I was having an out of body experience as I almost, but not quite, subconsciously analyzed all the people in a room and tried to identify which game was being played and whom was playing each particular role in it. One thing is certain, it is a VERY enlightening book that delves deep into what makes us tick. The triangle is actually a very vicious circle played out in many of life’s situations, and as the game evolves each player rotates though each of it’s three roles.

I would recommend any who are genuinely curious to read the book, but be warned, you will never look at human beings the same.
It took me many years after studying that book to be able to be totally relaxed in social environments without feeling like I was having an out of body experience as I almost, but not quite, subconsciously analyzed all the people in a room and tried to identify which game was being played and whom was playing each particular role in it.

One thing is certain, it is a VERY enlightening book that delves deep into what makes us tick.

]]> By: Ron http://www.dragosroua.com/social-games-people-play/#comment-97584 Ron Sat, 25 Jun 2011 09:58:48 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/?p=5763#comment-97584 You are right Hulbert, I read GPL (Games People Play) about 30 years ago while entertaining a hobby of studying human behavior and religion. GPL actually breaks all of human society into many games the most well know being that of Victim, Savior, Persecutor But there are dozens of others, I don't remember the exact breakdown, but in summary I think it was something like 36 major games with many having multiple players with multiple rolls, after all you can't have very interesting games if their is only one player. You are right Hulbert, I read GPL (Games People Play) about 30 years ago while entertaining a hobby of studying human behavior and religion.

GPL actually breaks all of human society into many games the most well know being that of Victim, Savior, Persecutor
But there are dozens of others, I don’t remember the exact breakdown, but in summary I think it was something like 36 major games with many having multiple players with multiple rolls, after all you can’t have very interesting games if their is only one player.

]]> By: 50 Ways to Start Fresh | The Bedside Poet http://www.dragosroua.com/social-games-people-play/#comment-94090 50 Ways to Start Fresh | The Bedside Poet Wed, 13 Apr 2011 16:07:44 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/?p=5763#comment-94090 [...] game of the family, the game of being rich or poor. By transforming every part of your life into a social game, you will empower yourself. It’s much easier to start a game than to repair a serious situation. [...] [...] game of the family, the game of being rich or poor. By transforming every part of your life into a social game, you will empower yourself. It’s much easier to start a game than to repair a serious situation. [...]

]]> By: Paul http://www.dragosroua.com/social-games-people-play/#comment-88298 Paul Sun, 24 Oct 2010 09:28:19 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/?p=5763#comment-88298 I also really enjoyed that book. Though in the book, the roles of Victim, Rescuer and Persecutor were originally described in the context of the life long game called Alcoholic. I like how you've extended that to life in general, as those roles do underpin many other games. I like your clear workplace example. My favourite part of that book was the chapters about "beyond games" at the end. Particularly when Eric Berne described awareness. He become more poetic and encouraged us to see the coffeepot and hear the birds sing for ourselves, rather than how our parents taught us too. I also really enjoyed that book. Though in the book, the roles of Victim, Rescuer and Persecutor were originally described in the context of the life long game called Alcoholic. I like how you’ve extended that to life in general, as those roles do underpin many other games. I like your clear workplace example. My favourite part of that book was the chapters about “beyond games” at the end. Particularly when Eric Berne described awareness. He become more poetic and encouraged us to see the coffeepot and hear the birds sing for ourselves, rather than how our parents taught us too.

]]> By: 50 Wyas To Start Fresh http://www.dragosroua.com/social-games-people-play/#comment-83587 50 Wyas To Start Fresh Sat, 10 Jul 2010 18:27:18 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/?p=5763#comment-83587 [...] game of the family, the game of being rich or poor. By transforming every part of your life into a social game, you will empower yourself. It’s much easier to start a game than to repair a serious situation. [...] [...] game of the family, the game of being rich or poor. By transforming every part of your life into a social game, you will empower yourself. It’s much easier to start a game than to repair a serious situation. [...]

]]> By: Social Games People Play | Personal Development Experiences http://www.dragosroua.com/social-games-people-play/#comment-83390 Social Games People Play | Personal Development Experiences Wed, 23 Jun 2010 11:15:23 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/?p=5763#comment-83390 [...] you the answer or more questions on the full article: http://www.dragosroua.com/social-games-people-play/ Related Posts:12 Practical Business Lessons From Social Psychology10 Ways to Reduce Stress in [...] [...] you the answer or more questions on the full article: http://www.dragosroua.com/social-games-people-play/ Related Posts:12 Practical Business Lessons From Social Psychology10 Ways to Reduce Stress in [...]

]]> By: How To Live A Scriptless Life http://www.dragosroua.com/social-games-people-play/#comment-83368 How To Live A Scriptless Life Tue, 22 Jun 2010 10:23:16 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/?p=5763#comment-83368 [...] Unconsciously playing games is happening more often than we know. For the vast majority of our time, we’re acting on auto-pilot. Some of these behaviors are useful (like answering to a “hello” instinctively: it makes your social life easier). But some of them, and I dare say most of them, are poisonous. We’re repeating stuff we engrained in our behavior when we were kids. We didn’t have the tools and experience to analyze those behaviors, we took them for granted. We became a Victim, a Rescuer, or a Persecutor. There are many other scripts, but some of the most common are those three, and they form the foundation for the social games people play. [...] [...] Unconsciously playing games is happening more often than we know. For the vast majority of our time, we’re acting on auto-pilot. Some of these behaviors are useful (like answering to a “hello” instinctively: it makes your social life easier). But some of them, and I dare say most of them, are poisonous. We’re repeating stuff we engrained in our behavior when we were kids. We didn’t have the tools and experience to analyze those behaviors, we took them for granted. We became a Victim, a Rescuer, or a Persecutor. There are many other scripts, but some of the most common are those three, and they form the foundation for the social games people play. [...]

]]> By: Darshan Chande http://www.dragosroua.com/social-games-people-play/#comment-83366 Darshan Chande Tue, 22 Jun 2010 01:51:56 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/?p=5763#comment-83366 Right :) Here, what you called "the real self" is actually no-self. In spirituality when the ego (self) is destroyed one become "self-less". Meaning, reduced to a mere spirit, the energy of which everything else in the world is made. That's called being one with the spirit of the universe. Selflessness is the goal of spirituality. Right :)

Here, what you called “the real self” is actually no-self. In spirituality when the ego (self) is destroyed one become “self-less”. Meaning, reduced to a mere spirit, the energy of which everything else in the world is made. That’s called being one with the spirit of the universe. Selflessness is the goal of spirituality.

]]> By: Mars Dorian http://www.dragosroua.com/social-games-people-play/#comment-83363 Mars Dorian Mon, 21 Jun 2010 16:31:10 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/?p=5763#comment-83363 Dragos, I don't even know which role I'm playing, I sense a bit of Rescuer and Persecutor in me ;) Like everyone else already lined out: It's a hard hard process, and even if you break it, it tends to come back. I'm deep in love with enhancing my personality, but you can't shape as good as clay. My main goal is to get at least 80% right, I leave the rest to me being human. My new idea - changing your script in tiny baby steps, but every single week. Dragos, I don’t even know which role I’m playing, I sense a bit of Rescuer and Persecutor in me ;)
Like everyone else already lined out: It’s a hard hard process, and even if you break it, it tends to come back. I’m deep in love with enhancing my personality, but you can’t shape as good as clay. My main goal is to get at least 80% right, I leave the rest to me being human. My new idea – changing your script in tiny baby steps, but every single week.

]]> By: Billy http://www.dragosroua.com/social-games-people-play/#comment-83357 Billy Mon, 21 Jun 2010 12:00:17 +0000 http://www.dragosroua.com/?p=5763#comment-83357 Great post. I have noticed this system of, Victom, rescuer or Persecutor in myself and in many others as well. It is a thick pattern to break. Thanks for sharing the topic Great post. I have noticed this system of, Victom, rescuer or Persecutor in myself and in many others as well. It is a thick pattern to break. Thanks for sharing the topic

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