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		<title>By: 7 Things I Learned From My Three Year Old Girl</title>
		<link>http://www.dragosroua.com/social-networking-versus-real-life-relationships/#comment-60917</link>
		<dc:creator>7 Things I Learned From My Three Year Old Girl</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 21 Jul 2009 21:59:36 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] the person is really annoying and/or boring. Kids don’t have social constraints when it comes to relationships, they’re just interacting naturally with everybody around. No need to exchange cards, phone [...]</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>[...] the person is really annoying and/or boring. Kids don’t have social constraints when it comes to relationships, they’re just interacting naturally with everybody around. No need to exchange cards, phone [...]</p>
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		<title>By: The First 6 Months Of Blogging - Promotion</title>
		<link>http://www.dragosroua.com/social-networking-versus-real-life-relationships/#comment-41598</link>
		<dc:creator>The First 6 Months Of Blogging - Promotion</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 04 Apr 2009 12:44:27 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] I am active on twitter, facebook and StumbeUpon. I have accounts on almost any major social networking, including digg and reddit but for various reasons I didn’t have any astonishing results with anything else, except twitter, StumbleUpon, and to some extent Facebook. If you take the hype out of social networking, you’ll come up with only a very useful tool for connections and nothing more. That’s it, is just a tool to make new connections. And as every other tool it can be extremely useful or extremely harmful. You can use a knife to cut your bread or to cut yourself. It’s not the tool itself but the way you’re using it. Social networking is as benign as any other activity, it’s your attitude which shapes it. And of course, you have to take the time to assess the difference between social networking and real life relationships. [...]</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>[...] I am active on twitter, facebook and StumbeUpon. I have accounts on almost any major social networking, including digg and reddit but for various reasons I didn’t have any astonishing results with anything else, except twitter, StumbleUpon, and to some extent Facebook. If you take the hype out of social networking, you’ll come up with only a very useful tool for connections and nothing more. That’s it, is just a tool to make new connections. And as every other tool it can be extremely useful or extremely harmful. You can use a knife to cut your bread or to cut yourself. It’s not the tool itself but the way you’re using it. Social networking is as benign as any other activity, it’s your attitude which shapes it. And of course, you have to take the time to assess the difference between social networking and real life relationships. [...]</p>
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		<title>By: dragos</title>
		<link>http://www.dragosroua.com/social-networking-versus-real-life-relationships/#comment-29661</link>
		<dc:creator>dragos</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 11 Jan 2009 21:44:30 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@Andrew Williams Jr very interesting comments! You may not care about your followers and that is perfectly ok. My approach was made with a clear presumption that one would / should use social networking as a platform for more exposure. You can be in social without being seen, or you can be in social without constantly monitoring your reaction. That&#039;s perfectly fine, sir!

Even more: I guess you can safely switch statuses: from one that has interest in acquiring a large mass of followers to one that has no interest in that. You are free to do whatever you want.

At the end, that&#039;s the beauty of it, I presume...</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@Andrew Williams Jr very interesting comments! You may not care about your followers and that is perfectly ok. My approach was made with a clear presumption that one would / should use social networking as a platform for more exposure. You can be in social without being seen, or you can be in social without constantly monitoring your reaction. That&#8217;s perfectly fine, sir!</p>
<p>Even more: I guess you can safely switch statuses: from one that has interest in acquiring a large mass of followers to one that has no interest in that. You are free to do whatever you want.</p>
<p>At the end, that&#8217;s the beauty of it, I presume&#8230;</p>
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		<title>By: Andrew Williams Jr</title>
		<link>http://www.dragosroua.com/social-networking-versus-real-life-relationships/#comment-29639</link>
		<dc:creator>Andrew Williams Jr</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 11 Jan 2009 20:04:51 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Thanks for your post. The first new nudge I felt (when the picture of all humans as components of one transcendent body as a being) caused a lot of pieces to fall into place that had only been murky outlines before.

I just entered this &quot;universe&quot; on September 1, 2008, having had no previous experience with membership in online interactive social networks to guide me. In fact, I literally burned my bridges behind me by virtually shutting off my offline income streams and shifting to a consistent 16 hour daily &quot;commute&quot;, much the way I left Macon, Georgia in 1980 to move to Los Angeles without knowing a soul in advance. 

Like most readers, I can validate your identification of differing sets of rules that apply on different social networks, but your word pictures helped me articulate a specific hierarchy of those networks that not only most appeal to me, but which most welcome the online persona most comfortable for me. 

For example, hands down, Ecademy fits that bill in most particulars, while 
My Plaxo account was suspended because I failed in time to recognize or avoid the system-imposed discipline/limitations. Facebook, with which I began my exploration, in fact, faded from my consciousness because the effort became more demanding than the result warranted.

That brought the second nudge. . . the Obama factor. I was born in Macon, Georgia in 1958. After the third killing (John Kennedy, Martin Luther King, Jr., Robert Kennedy), in 1968 my mother grabbed me, shook me, and warned me that her grandfather had been lynched for &quot;asking&quot; for money owed to him by the sharecropper he worked for an hour early because he needed to buy some medication for his sick child, and that America would never allow a Negro kid to be &quot;accepted&quot; into &quot;their&quot; world. . .

. . . and yet, I can mark election day, 2008, as the day I felt the final strands of the invisible ropes with which I had been binding my hopes, ambitions and dreams dissolve, although my mother died eight years before that, and 3000 miles away.

Which brings me to the final nudge. You failed to factor in one consideration - what if I don&#039;t care about the limitations that &quot;followers&quot; can or may impose on their own reactions to my change and growth?
To me it seem that living within the consistency requirements of an online persona would be more restricting than any physical pen or prison could ever be.

Thanks for the nudges.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thanks for your post. The first new nudge I felt (when the picture of all humans as components of one transcendent body as a being) caused a lot of pieces to fall into place that had only been murky outlines before.</p>
<p>I just entered this &#8220;universe&#8221; on September 1, 2008, having had no previous experience with membership in online interactive social networks to guide me. In fact, I literally burned my bridges behind me by virtually shutting off my offline income streams and shifting to a consistent 16 hour daily &#8220;commute&#8221;, much the way I left Macon, Georgia in 1980 to move to Los Angeles without knowing a soul in advance. </p>
<p>Like most readers, I can validate your identification of differing sets of rules that apply on different social networks, but your word pictures helped me articulate a specific hierarchy of those networks that not only most appeal to me, but which most welcome the online persona most comfortable for me. </p>
<p>For example, hands down, Ecademy fits that bill in most particulars, while<br />
My Plaxo account was suspended because I failed in time to recognize or avoid the system-imposed discipline/limitations. Facebook, with which I began my exploration, in fact, faded from my consciousness because the effort became more demanding than the result warranted.</p>
<p>That brought the second nudge. . . the Obama factor. I was born in Macon, Georgia in 1958. After the third killing (John Kennedy, Martin Luther King, Jr., Robert Kennedy), in 1968 my mother grabbed me, shook me, and warned me that her grandfather had been lynched for &#8220;asking&#8221; for money owed to him by the sharecropper he worked for an hour early because he needed to buy some medication for his sick child, and that America would never allow a Negro kid to be &#8220;accepted&#8221; into &#8220;their&#8221; world. . .</p>
<p>. . . and yet, I can mark election day, 2008, as the day I felt the final strands of the invisible ropes with which I had been binding my hopes, ambitions and dreams dissolve, although my mother died eight years before that, and 3000 miles away.</p>
<p>Which brings me to the final nudge. You failed to factor in one consideration &#8211; what if I don&#8217;t care about the limitations that &#8220;followers&#8221; can or may impose on their own reactions to my change and growth?<br />
To me it seem that living within the consistency requirements of an online persona would be more restricting than any physical pen or prison could ever be.</p>
<p>Thanks for the nudges.</p>
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		<title>By: dragos</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 11 Jan 2009 09:04:55 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@Marius Thanks for your kind words about this article, I appreciate it. 

About the branding stuff, what can I say: I secured both my name and this nickname as domain names and I chose this nickname as a brand. Over the years I observed that people found me more often by this nickname (being it in my email address or on my nickname in various social networking areas) and it just felt right to me to use this for my blog. Sometimes branding can be a question of luck, you know.

There are famous examples for both choices: &lt;a href=&quot;http://problogger.net&quot; target=&quot;_new&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;problogger.net&lt;/a&gt; for Darren Rowse, &lt;a href=&quot;http://mashable.com&quot; target=&quot;_new&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;mashable.com&lt;/a&gt; for Pete Cashmore, &lt;a href=&quot;http://scobleizer.com&quot; target=&quot;_new&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;scobleizer.com&lt;/a&gt; for Robert Scoble, as examples of non-name-based famous blogs. On the other hand we have of course &lt;a href=&quot;http://stevepavlina.com&quot; target=&quot;_new&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;stevepavlina.com&lt;/a&gt; for Steve Pavlina, since we already talked about him in another post... 

Personal branding is something so special, after all ;-) ...</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@Marius Thanks for your kind words about this article, I appreciate it. </p>
<p>About the branding stuff, what can I say: I secured both my name and this nickname as domain names and I chose this nickname as a brand. Over the years I observed that people found me more often by this nickname (being it in my email address or on my nickname in various social networking areas) and it just felt right to me to use this for my blog. Sometimes branding can be a question of luck, you know.</p>
<p>There are famous examples for both choices: <a href="http://problogger.net" target="_new" rel="nofollow">problogger.net</a> for Darren Rowse, <a href="http://mashable.com" target="_new" rel="nofollow">mashable.com</a> for Pete Cashmore, <a href="http://scobleizer.com" target="_new" rel="nofollow">scobleizer.com</a> for Robert Scoble, as examples of non-name-based famous blogs. On the other hand we have of course <a href="http://stevepavlina.com" target="_new" rel="nofollow">stevepavlina.com</a> for Steve Pavlina, since we already talked about him in another post&#8230; </p>
<p>Personal branding is something so special, after all <img src='http://www.dragosroua.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';-)' class='wp-smiley' />  &#8230;</p>
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		<title>By: Marius</title>
		<link>http://www.dragosroua.com/social-networking-versus-real-life-relationships/#comment-29435</link>
		<dc:creator>Marius</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 10 Jan 2009 23:34:06 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Will skip the &quot;great article&quot; stuff, as it&#039;s already something clear by now. :)

Something stroke me while reading your article. Ever since I&#039;ve heard about you (on Twitter, yes), and started reading you once in a while (depends on Twitter, again), been asking myself why do you use this &quot;edragonu&quot; brand, instead of your real name - especially since the blog is in English. Don&#039;t you think it&#039;d be more powerful, or let&#039;s say, helpful along the lines of your goal with this blog? Just curious.

On another note, congratulations for getting international comments, while I kept my blog in English, I didn&#039;t manage, as I was a disaster in terms of my own blog. :)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Will skip the &#8220;great article&#8221; stuff, as it&#8217;s already something clear by now. <img src='http://www.dragosroua.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>Something stroke me while reading your article. Ever since I&#8217;ve heard about you (on Twitter, yes), and started reading you once in a while (depends on Twitter, again), been asking myself why do you use this &#8220;edragonu&#8221; brand, instead of your real name &#8211; especially since the blog is in English. Don&#8217;t you think it&#8217;d be more powerful, or let&#8217;s say, helpful along the lines of your goal with this blog? Just curious.</p>
<p>On another note, congratulations for getting international comments, while I kept my blog in English, I didn&#8217;t manage, as I was a disaster in terms of my own blog. <img src='http://www.dragosroua.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
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		<title>By: dragos</title>
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		<dc:creator>dragos</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jan 2009 18:53:54 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@Toma Bonciu: it seems that consistency and persistence are the areas in which you need to work more. But relax, I don&#039;t really think it will take years to develop a social presence. Months, maybe, but not years :-) Thanks for your comment!

@Kathy Thank you for the nice words :-)

@Mike King Great point! Social networking and real life relationships are in fact just two different ways in which you can relate. But the core of the relation is always gratitude and generosity , regardless of the form in which you manifest it: digital or real. Thanks for commenting!

@BunnygotBlog thanks for sharing your thoughts and commenting here. Especially in the business of consulting - in which I understand you are acting - personal branding is indeed a key component for success.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@Toma Bonciu: it seems that consistency and persistence are the areas in which you need to work more. But relax, I don&#8217;t really think it will take years to develop a social presence. Months, maybe, but not years <img src='http://www.dragosroua.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':-)' class='wp-smiley' />  Thanks for your comment!</p>
<p>@Kathy Thank you for the nice words <img src='http://www.dragosroua.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':-)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>@Mike King Great point! Social networking and real life relationships are in fact just two different ways in which you can relate. But the core of the relation is always gratitude and generosity , regardless of the form in which you manifest it: digital or real. Thanks for commenting!</p>
<p>@BunnygotBlog thanks for sharing your thoughts and commenting here. Especially in the business of consulting &#8211; in which I understand you are acting &#8211; personal branding is indeed a key component for success.</p>
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		<title>By: BunnygotBlog</title>
		<link>http://www.dragosroua.com/social-networking-versus-real-life-relationships/#comment-29096</link>
		<dc:creator>BunnygotBlog</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jan 2009 15:26:30 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I like your article very much. 

This does have the rippling effect both areas, real world/blog world.
The beauty of it is that you discover a means of self improvement along with some wonderful people you would never have known of. 

Networking is a great tool. You join the right forum and I know I usually get fast results. We are reaching out to a wider community.

 If you are lucky, a few more experienced people take you under their wing. 
As Mike said above it is all about the brand and PR  of your blog.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I like your article very much. </p>
<p>This does have the rippling effect both areas, real world/blog world.<br />
The beauty of it is that you discover a means of self improvement along with some wonderful people you would never have known of. </p>
<p>Networking is a great tool. You join the right forum and I know I usually get fast results. We are reaching out to a wider community.</p>
<p> If you are lucky, a few more experienced people take you under their wing.<br />
As Mike said above it is all about the brand and PR  of your blog.</p>
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		<title>By: Mike King</title>
		<link>http://www.dragosroua.com/social-networking-versus-real-life-relationships/#comment-29090</link>
		<dc:creator>Mike King</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jan 2009 14:45:32 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Great article.  While there are certainly different ways to use social networking one of the main keys I find is that a lot of people are discovering for the first time in their lives that giving to others first and offering yourself is what actually makes the most difference in the social network arena.  This is the same in life in general and I think a lot of people still fail to see that.  So yes, some of the rules are different and you must be careful about your brand, but if you offer help to others first and do something for them, it ends up paying off.  Especially if you help those who really need it.  In this sense, social networks and life are the same.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Great article.  While there are certainly different ways to use social networking one of the main keys I find is that a lot of people are discovering for the first time in their lives that giving to others first and offering yourself is what actually makes the most difference in the social network arena.  This is the same in life in general and I think a lot of people still fail to see that.  So yes, some of the rules are different and you must be careful about your brand, but if you offer help to others first and do something for them, it ends up paying off.  Especially if you help those who really need it.  In this sense, social networks and life are the same.</p>
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		<title>By: Kathy  @  Virtual Impax</title>
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		<dc:creator>Kathy  @  Virtual Impax</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jan 2009 14:33:45 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Toma tweeted - I followed and found this great post.  

Yes - Yes -Yes - &quot;Social networking&quot; definitely does have different &quot;rules&quot; than &lt;i&gt;real life networking&lt;/i&gt;.  I was grinning like a fool as I read your &quot;imagine approaching someone on the street and asking them for Linux tips.&quot;  SO TRUE!!!  

I also issue a hearty amen to the point on consistency!   Right on!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Toma tweeted &#8211; I followed and found this great post.  </p>
<p>Yes &#8211; Yes -Yes &#8211; &#8220;Social networking&#8221; definitely does have different &#8220;rules&#8221; than <i>real life networking</i>.  I was grinning like a fool as I read your &#8220;imagine approaching someone on the street and asking them for Linux tips.&#8221;  SO TRUE!!!  </p>
<p>I also issue a hearty amen to the point on consistency!   Right on!</p>
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